There was a time in my life when the issue of Islam promoting violence against women (including the sexual use of widows and orphans during/after war) was a huge barrier to my ability to authentically love my Muslim friends. When I saw the hijab, heard the call to prayer, or saw a Qur'an, I thought of these passages like reflex. I felt disgust, pain, and impatience - like, "How long will you give loyalty to this man?"(The Shahada makes it clear that Islam is loyalty not only to Allah, but to Mohammad as well.) To me, these symbols represented loyalty to a man whose words and behavior brought pain into countless lives...It was very difficult to see. Today, I want to share a video of Nabeel Qureshi speaking at a Crescent Project event. Nabeel shares about what it was like to encounter these passages about violence for the first time. Having legitimately never heard or known. I'm sharing this today because we live in the Information Era, where it's so easy to assume that you and your friend are starting a conversation with the same basic/essential facts and understandings. But this is a wrong assumption. It's necessary that we ask good questions, listen well, and try to authentically understand what our friends believe (and why.) I had to let go of my belief that hijab = knowing truth about Mohammad and accepting this as good. I had to relearn love. Love gives benefit of the doubt; love is patient; love is slow to speak and quick to listen; love doesn't make assumptions. I hope this video is a blessing to you today. What stood out to you?